Whether you have jobs, kids, and personal hobbies/interests or not, prioritizing your marriage can be tough for any couple. In light of this, I want to talk about three ways to supercharge your marriage when it seems that it has fallen below the priority status it deserves.
What are some practical ways we can supercharge our marriage?
I believe that our relationship with the Lord is the first priority in our lives, and second is our relationship with our spouse. Though we may know this to be the case, it’s oftentimes not lived out because of all the various distractions that pop up unexpectedly, or just the pace of living this life itself.
So, as I typically say in posts like these, being intentional and relentless to fight against these pulling chains of distractions is key! Let that be the foundational reason for following through with these suggestions below:
Date your spouse. I wrote a blog article found here, about truly sitting down and marking on your calendars, dates planned to be with one another. Once you have it marked down, make sure you do your best to follow through with it. Dates are a way to connect, without the distractions of kids around you, or laundry to be done. Make it a point to not always talk about the areas in your life that you’re always inclined to discuss, such as work, parenting, money, etc. Those are fine, but balance your time with topics like your favorite memory together or telling the story of the first time you both saw one another. Recalling your history is powerful. That leads us to number 2!
Retell your story with one another. Oftentimes we can talk with our children about the day they were born, recalling the first few moments of them in our arms, etc. But when was the last time you and your spouse walked through the timeline of your relationship? Talking through your history together can lead to deeper conversations, whether it may spur on a wake-up call about certain goals/dreams you need to readdress, or just spark your heart to recall tender moments of the young love dating days. Don’t have a designated time planned together for another few days? You can start this discussion through a phone call or texts. Even an email! Just get the ball rolling!
Unexpected acts of kindness each day. The element of kindness is healing to any relationship and shows the other person you have thought about them that day. And remember, we are aiming to prioritize and supercharge our marriages, so this is a great thing for your spouse to know you made space in your day to think about them in this way. Some examples include: writing a hand-written note to them, dropping them off lunch at their office, giving them a compliment that is real and encouraging, doing something you know would be helpful before they even ask. There are a million ways, choose one today to get started.
Putting into practice these three ways will definitely help supercharge your marriage! Let’s join together to make this happen!